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Should I send my child to boarding school?

Published:Tuesday | July 29, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Orlean Brown-Earle, ask the doc

Q My child at age 12 is very mature and ready for boarding school. However, I am not sure the school is ready for her. At the orientation, she asked questions that the school was not prepared to answer. She was not rude, but some parents were wary. Should I board her at the school or in the community?

A You need to place your child in housing where you will be most comfortable. Encourage your child to ask questions politely.

Q My friend told me not to take my children, eight and six, on too many trips overseas. She found that when her children viewed pictures of places that they went when very young, they did not remember much. Is this true?

A Most children under 10 years usually go to places to have fun, so the greater educational focus is not there. You can save your money to take them to more exotic places when they are 12 and over and get them formally involved in educational activities while visiting.

Q My father has three sons outside of his marriage with my mother. He died recently. None of the three mothers is capable of looking after the children. They are ages nine, eight, and four. Should my mother take them? I think it would be better to help them financially but not deal with the social and emotional problems of the children. My mother is 58.

A At 58, your mother should be looking forward to retirement. The mothers of these boys must take responsibility and take care of them. Once you are capable of helping, do as much as you can. Guide them to the Programme of Advancement Through Health and Education and other programmes from which they could receive help.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!