Men-ology - 10 ways to lose a guy

Dionna Young, Lifestyle Writer

We've all been given tips on how to attract a guy. But what do the ladies unknowingly do that scare men off? Dionna Young, hot seats 10 guys to give us the low-down.

• 1. Michael, 26 says: Be fake

GUY SOS: Nothing is worse than someone who isn't themselves; guys can sniff this out like its perfume. It's a matter of being happy with who you are, not being someone you think he wants you to be. If he isn't the right guy for you, then find someone who is.

• 2. Jason, 21 says: Never be seen without your make-up

GUY SOS: It's a known fact that many women love to look good all the time, especially for their partner. But it is also a known thing as Jason revealed that men love seeing you make-up free from time to time: It suggests to him you are happy in the skin you're in, you won't annoyingly be high maintenance; and you're confident in your relationship. Plus, it's a given opportunity to allow your skin to breathe!

• 3. Maxwell, 27 says: Write texted essays

GUY SOS: Well, pretty much, many gals can plead guilty with this issue at one point in our lives and that's because females are more so verbally expressive. We were meant to text "hey, what's up?" But we end up texting, "hey, what's up? You on lunch break? Are we still going out tonight and are you bringing that workmate along ... you know the one I don't really like 'cause ..." yardy, yardy, yuh. Ok, so what part of the text do you expect your guy to answer? Keep the text simple because guys like simplicity and ease. Men want straight to the point questions so they can respond with straight to the point answers. And remember, men's attention span flicker easily, so state what you're saying, in the shortest of words, so you won't lose their attention.

• 4. Ricardo, 31 says: Stuff what you haven't got

GUY SOS: Many women want to sell the illusion as if they are physically perfect. This includes wearing padded bras or the new craze, padded knickers. News flash: there's no such thing as perfect and men very well know this. Men like the real deal, the real McCoy and they don't like to be baited into an illusion. How would you like to order a seafood platter and instead receive a platter without the seafood? Confidently present you. There is no specific description that a man goes for; what you think you're physically lacking, may not even faze a guy of interest.

• 5. David 25, says: BB your friend while on a date

GUY SOS: A lot of women have grown attached to their BlackBerrys as though it's not only an accessory must-have but as though it's glued to their fingers. It's really socially unattractive to men and it says to them that you're more so interested in what your friends are getting up to then spending some quality time with your partner. Put away the phone and enjoy the alone time you have together.

• 6. Jermaine 34, says: Don't be spontaneous

GUY SOS: Repetition is a repellent for most men. They love spontaneity, randomness and the unexpected in a woman. However, don't play mind games that will make your partner feel as though he can't trust you but have fun with your man and always leave him guessing.

• 7. Denzel, 30 says: Share our sex life with your girlfriends

GUY SOS: Would you stand on a stage in front of thousands and share you're sex life? So why share your sex life with your friends, even if they are your really close girlfriends and he's really 'good' at what he does. It's invading his privacy and I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if he started rating you out of 10 with the boys.

• 8. Richie, 32 says: Be clingy

GUY SOS: Clingy is almost on the borderline of possessiveness. And for most men it's nauseating. If you don't want to come across like a leech, then give your guy a break. Let him hang with the boys; let him go places without you. Men respect women who are independent and can stand on their own two feet. Not someone that they feel responsible for. The more space you give him, the more time he'll want to spend with you. Get it?

• 9. Fabian, 20 says: Pick from my plate

GUY SOS: Although this may not seem as such a big deal to the female species, surprisingly, like Fabian, men really get frustrated over having to downsize their dinner plate. And you'll be surprised at how many relationship arguments occur because his girlfriend dabs at his plate. Men yearn for ownership, including the slightly minor, short-term things. Think of it as a caveman scenario: they hunt, they find, they eat and no they don't want to share their meat. At the beginning of the budding relationship, you may think it's cute and romantic to take from their plate, but they're smiling through gritted teeth.

• 10. Ajani, 27 says: Nag, nag, nag

GUY SOS: Of course, to say not to do so is easier said than done. If a guy is doing something wrong, it's hard not to utter a word of complaint. But diplomacy and charm to get what you want goes a long way. If you see your guy saying or doing something that annoys you, instead of nagging him all the time about it catch him when you two are alone and discuss the situation. Here comes the technique: discuss, and then entwine the complaint with a compliment of what you like that he does to seal the discussion. But be careful, don't do this all the time, he'll catch on and think you're not being genuine. It's a technique that takes time to master but once you do, you'll get what you want without having to nag.