The Evolet Process puts focus on healthy relationships

Dave Lindo, Gleaner Writer

MANDEVILLE, Manchester:FRANCINE BINNS is a trained life coach and is on a mission to make positive changes in the lives of people, helping them to build better relationships and to achieve their lifetime dreams. She does this through her company, Evolet Process.

Born and raised in Mandeville, Binns attended Bishop Gibson High School and afterwards continued her studies at City of New York University, where she obtained a degree in counselling. She is at present pursuing a master's in counselling at the Nova South Eastern University.

In explaining what the Evolet Process is about, she said: "It focuses on relationships, but the entire process focuses on the individual themselves. It's evolving and growing as an individual to have more fulfilling relationships."

Binns added: " We are working at the group level and the individual level. We focus on the single men and single women who want to find that special someone but haven't found them as yet and help them to take that journey. My focus is to get healthy people together in a relationship - not two persons with baggage. So it's releasing some of that baggage in order to form healthy, lasting relationships."

Commenting on what causes relationships not to last, Binns said: "I think sometimes people go into relationships for the wrong reasons. Sometimes we feel lonely, sometimes our egos have been bruised, and because of that, we run into something else far too quickly before we are ready to process what happened. That results in two unhealthy people coming together and making a relationship for the wrong reasons. Sooner or later, you are going to drift apart."

She added: "You have to know yourself, know what you need, give yourself time to heal, and mend from something in the past. This Evolet Process is stopping that all together and taking time to process reasons why you want to go into another relationship."

CoMMUNICATION is KEY

She also named lack of communi-cation as a factor which hurts relationships. "Having open, honest communication is very important. Sometimes we are in a relationship and we think the person is a mind reader and they are not. Maybe they did something to offend you, maybe without realising that or intending it to be an offense, but communication can alleviate the hurt which may result from that."

Binns continued: "Another thing is cheating. As an individual, you have to know what you want and don't compromise. Sometimes when you compromise on some important key things that you want, you are going to end up resenting (the) person (involved), even though you knew that person didn't have it in them."