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Speak less, speak sweetly

Published:Sunday | November 12, 2023 | 12:06 AM

In a world filled with ceaseless chatter where words flow freely and thoughtlessly, many of us find ourselves entangled in conversations with less authenticity and toxic consequences. Why do we speak so much? Are all our spoken words necessary? It is said that majority of the world’s problems are borne out of unnecessarily uttered words. Is there a need to preserve our word energy? We often speak excessively due to societal pressure, fear of silence, need for validation, or habit of over-thinking. The constant generation of thoughts leads to excessive talking which dilutes the quality of our words, leading to thoughtless communication and strained relationships.

When we speak only as much as is required, we save our word energy for what matters. It’s a reminder that our words are a valuable resource, and wasteful use can deplete our inner reservoir. Just as we are mindful of how we spend our time and money, we should be equally conscious of how we spend our words. This awareness encourages us to choose our words with care, ensuring that each one serves a purpose and carries meaning. When we speak thoughtfully, our words become authentic expressions of our inner self.

By resisting the compulsion to talk incessantly, we also open up space for active listening. When we are more selective with our words, we become better listeners, attuned to the needs and feelings of those around us. We discover the beauty of the pause – the moments of stillness in a conversation where understanding, empathy, and sweetness can blossom. In a world where over-communication leads to misunderstandings and emotional exhaustion, speaking mindfully embraces brevity and depth over verbosity and shallowness. It reminds us that words spoken with purpose and sincerity hold more power than an endless stream of emotions in words. Our faces and our words mirror our true selves, be wise with them.

To speak wisely, we should practise:

1. Cultivate self-awareness: Recognise the impulse to over-talk.

2. Embrace silence: Listen before you speak.

3. Prioritise quality over quantity: Speak when your words add value.

4. Practise mindfulness: Choose words thoughtfully, considering their impact.

5. Develop empathy: Understand others’ perspectives to foster kind communication.

6. Set intentions: Focus on clear and genuine expression.

By adopting these habits, we can refine our communication, nurturing meaningful connections and authentic self-expression. The ‘art of speaking’ invites us to re-evaluate our thought patterns and communication habits. It encourages us to preserve our word energy and allows our words to carry the truth of our experiences. By embracing this principle, we can cultivate deeper connections, foster genuine understanding, and experience the profound impact of words spoken out of wisdom.

Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Center, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Email: Or follow on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica