The correct way of ‘correcting’

We all want to see ourselves and those around us improve. Whether it’s our children, co-workers, or the people who assist us in daily life, we often feel the need to correct them when they do something we believe is wrong. While the intention may be good, the way we deliver correction plays a crucial role in whether it is accepted or rejected.

Often, even without any pride or ego, our method of correction can come across as judgemental or hurtful. This can lead to resistance, making the other person unwilling to listen to or consider our suggestion. So, what is the right way to guide others toward better actions?

WHY DOES CORRECTION OFTEN FAIL?

When we point out someone’s mistake, it may seem like we are questioning their intelligence or ability. This hurts their ego. Once the mind feels hurt or attacked, it tends to shut down and becomes less open to even well-meant advice. Instead of taking the suggestion positively, the person may feel insulted or become defensive. As a result, the purpose of the correction is lost.

This applies regardless of age, status, or relationship. The common mistake is beginning with the flaws rather than preparing the person’s mind to receive the suggestion in a constructive and healthy way. When correction feels like criticism, it doesn’t lead to growth, because the energy behind it is disempowering.

START WITHSTRENGTHS, NOT FLAWS

The right way to correct someone is by first appreciating their strengths. Every individual has positive qualities. Begin by recognising and sincerely appreciating those qualities. This energises their mind and creates space for constructive feedback.

You don’t need to flatter or exaggerate. A genuine appreciation makes the person feel seen and valued. Once their mind is empowered by positive attention, it becomes ready to reflect on suggestions neutrally and openly. When you do bring up areas of improvement, the person is more likely to receive them with clarity rather than with hurt or resistance.

On the other hand, if you start by pointing out repeated mistakes or flaws, you’re speaking to a weak and possibly tired mind. Criticism at this point only makes the mind weaker, reducing the chances of improvement. Encouragement, however, empowers for betterment.

BEGIN WITH YOURSELF

This method is not just for others — it applies to us too. Constantly finding fault in ourselves without recognition of our efforts weakens our motivation to grow in the long run. Empower the mind first by acknowledging the strengths, then guide it toward the transformation required.

Let us all choose the gentle art of correction, not by highlighting faults, but by building strength. In doing so, we energise minds, inspire growth, and move toward a fulfilling life.

Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com or WhatsApp: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica.