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Raped boys, men suffer in silence

Published:Monday | July 17, 2017 | 12:00 AM


Since 2007, I've had the opportunity of meeting three rape victims who were all male. The first was raped when he was seven years old, but no one reported it because of the shame. The sexual assault continued into his teenage years.

Now, can a man walk into a police station and say he was sexually assaulted? What help is there for our men? What help is there for our sons?

The other victim was raped by his uncle and is today a homosexual. He says that because of the assault, he just thought this was the right way.

The third didn't reveal his rapist, but said it affected his studies deeply. His anus tore, resulting in him needing stitches, but because of the embarrassment, he kept it a secret and pretended to be ill to mask the pain.

My belief is that many boys are being exploited and raped, but you dare not talk about it in Jamaica or you'll be beaten, chased, scorned and ostracised. Bruised men are crying out for help, but it is said that a man must be tough, he should never show emotion.

On a radio station, I heard a young man recounting that his first sexual experience at five years old was when he was forced to perform oral sex on a man who later pushed him out on the streets. It always amazes me how men who claim to be heterosexuals always want to beat the ones who claim to be homosexuals; maybe it reminds them of some terrible sexual experience that their parents didn't acknowledge, so they have to go through life with this painful, dirty secret.

Prime Minister, lawmakers, rape is rape across the board, whether it is male or female. I can't see how we were both created equally, yet males have to hide their pain even more so than females.