Abstinence before marriage builds lasting relationships
Published:Friday | July 25, 2025 | 12:05 AM
THE EDITOR, Madam:
In a culture increasingly shaped by permissiveness and digital distractions, the value of sexual abstinence before marriage is often dismissed as outdated. But with rising emotional instability, high divorce rates, and declining moral standards, perhaps it’s time to return to principles that once upheld stronger families and healthier individuals.
This call is not about shame – it’s about clarity, empowerment, and truth. Abstaining from sex before marriage has both spiritual significance and research-based benefits that deserve renewed attention, especially among Jamaica’s youth.
Traditional courtship emphasised respect, responsibility, and commitment. Families were involved, values were upheld, and intentions were made clear. Abstinence wasn’t just a religious ideal – it created space for thoughtful relationships.
There are evidence-based benefits abstinence:
– Emotional stability: Studies from the Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy show that those who abstain before marriage often enjoy deeper trust and less emotional trauma.
– Health and safety: According to the WHO, youth in Jamaica face high STI rates. Abstinence remains the most effective prevention.
– Better relationships: Research from the APA found couples who waited reported greater communication and intimacy.
– Spiritual strength: The Bible urges us to “flee sexual immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18). Purity fosters peace of mind and spiritual clarity.
– Marital success: Couples who abstain before marriage are reportedly 22 per cent less likely to divorce.
Today’s music and media often glorify promiscuity, disrespect, and emotional detachment. Porn, toys, and “badman culture” are replacing faithfulness and real intimacy. This shift is producing broken homes, fatherless children, and a warped view of love.
Contrary to stereotypes, virgin couples often report greater sexual satisfaction and emotional connection. Without comparisons or emotional baggage, trust and intimacy deepen. Real love isn’t built on lust – it’s built on legacy.
Let’s reintroduce values that shaped generations before us:
– Honour your body. You are more than a pleasure tool – you are sacred.
– Protect your soul. Sex is spiritual, not casual.
– Seek God’s will. Prepare for your spouse now by living with integrity.
– Build lasting love. Purity today creates peace tomorrow.
It’s never too late to start fresh. Whether 15 or 35, choosing abstinence is still powerful. The basics still work – and the blessing still stands.
GARY BLAIR