A 'special goodbye' from my mystery guy

Q. Doctor, I am a girl of 17, living in the country. I do not know much about boys because my mother has always urged me to 'steer clear' of them! I think she is afraid I will get pregnant, or something. But last month, my school friends and I went on an organised trip to the Corporate Area. It was enjoyable, and we learned many things. And almost inevitably, we attracted the attention of some guys around our own age. Though we were very well supervised, one of these young men managed to get talking with me in a quiet corner. He told me where he thought I was beautiful and also 'very sexy'. All of this came as a big surprise to me! He actually got me away from the main crowd of people for about half an hour, and when no one could see us, he put his arms around me and kissed me. Unexpectedly, I liked this very much, and I kissed him back. Then I was rather astonished when he put his tongue in my mouth. I wondered if this was normal, or what. Also, just before we had to return from our quiet corner, he said he wanted to give me a 'special goodbye'. Then he sank to his knees in front of me and planted a big, lingering kiss on the front of my skirt, exactly where my 'privates' are. To be honest, Doc, I did not mind this at all. It was not against my will. But it was a big shock! Then we had to part, but he gave me a small paper with his phone number and said we must meet again. Now I have three questions, doctor:1. Is putting the tongue in someone's mouth OK? 2. Was what he did OK when he kissed the front of my skirt? 3. Should I call him?

A: Well, you certainly had an eventful trip to the Corporate Area. I must say that what strikes me immediately is that for a young woman of 17, you do know very little about sex, and indeed, about men.

So I am sure it would be a good thing if you had some educational but informal chats with an experienced older lady who knows all about these matters. If you can't really talk to your mother, then please try and find a nurse, or a midwife, or perhaps a teacher who could discuss sexual matters with you and help you to understand more about this important subject.

Turning to your three questions, I will deal with them one by one. First, you ask about the practice of putting the tongue in someone else's mouth. This is called 'French kissing'. A very high proportion of young couples do it, mainly because they find it a little more exciting than 'ordinary' kissing. However, a girl does not usually allow a guy to 'French' her it until they have achieved a degree of intimacy.

Second, you ask about the guy kissing the front of your skirt. He is certainly a fast mover, and many people would have thought this action to be extremely cheeky.

As you can probably guess, it clearly symbolises oral sexual activity. And I forecast that oral sex would be exactly what he would want if you ever happened to meet again.

Third, you have his phone number and you wish to know if you should call him. Well, I don't feel you should rush into that. There are plenty of nice young guys in the area where you live, and maybe you should have a few conversations with them and see how you get on.

Perhaps the boy from the Corporate Area should just remain a pleasant romantic memory.

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